Have you ever thought you wanted to achieve a goal, and seemed to be doing things, but getting nowhere?
Have you struggled to be inspired and motivated to do what you know you need to do to achieve those goals?
Knowing, what I do now, I believe that the 'Why' behind each of those goals is very important.
Analysing my past successes, and failures, each of the successes, had a big 'Why' behind the inspiration and motivation that I had to achieve them.
If we don't have this 'Why', we won't be able to persevere when we hit the road bumps that we all do on the way to our goals.
When in came to successfully losing weight and keeping it off, and when it came to quitting smoking and staying away from it, the deep desire in me to want to be a great example for my future family (back then I was single), and to prove my naysayers and people who riddiculed me all my life, pushed me a helped me power through multiple failures.
Now with the online business, I have persevered and returned to it over the years, because I want to set an example for future generations of my family, to be creators of value, to not have to depend on someone to pay them in exchange for time, and to be able to have freedom to live.
The thing is this, we have only one life to live, and to live that life to the fullest, we need to not only have a sense of accomplishment and having made a difference, we also need money (which comes from creating value and solving problems) to buy time and location freedom, along with being able to have the resources to buy quality food to stay healthy.
Zig Ziglar used to say, "Money is not the most important thing, but it is reasonably close to oxygen". Money in and of itself, after we have met our basic needs is a means o keeping score of the value we add to the market place, and the difference we make. Don't ever be guilty of wanting to make money, when you know you are adding value for it and changing lives in some positive way.
So how do you use your why to motivate and propell you?
Well, here is where from previous experience, I can say, keep the end result at the top of your mind and visualise the result you want.
I now realise that with weight loss and quitting smoking all those years ago, I unconsciously used this.
I would visualise (I didn't even know it was called that, nor did I know what I know now about it), what the end result would be if I kept doing what I was doing, ie. smoking all those cigarettes and or getting fatter as I was. I didn't like the end result that I could see I was heading towards. Then I would think, to be a good example for my kids, I would have to be healthy in eating well, exercising well and not indulging in vices like smoking.
Now, I could say that was all I did, but there is one secret element to all this as well.
As a Christian, (I had gone from being an atheist to a Christian, just before the big transformations happened in life), I would also pray to God for strength.
No, I didn't pray "God, just magically give me a great, lean and fit body" or "God, take away my addiction to cigarettes". Although I would have liked to pray like that, I somehow knew (and my dad used to always say "God will give you the fruit, but you have got to peel it and eat it") that I needed to pray for strength to go through the process to become the person who would have that ideal end point that I wanted and visualised.
Now, from doing research into things like visualisation, I realise that, unlike what some people out there would like to believe and teach, visualising some result doesn't magically make it happen, nor does it automatically get the end result.
It solidifies the 'Why' in our minds, keeps it at the top of the mind and activates the Reticular Articulating System (RAS), which then keeps and eye out for targetted information and situations to help get the result that you want.
The other thing that I also did was, start taking action towards those goals immediately, with what I already knew.
This meant making mistakes like crash dieting, but if I hadn't done it, I wouldn't have taken the steps after that when it failed, to learn all that I have in the last 12 years.
So, if you are struggling to find the 'Why' to something you want to achieve you can use these resources in that order (even though I did it differently, finally putting it it this order made sense and helped clear a lot of things for me).
The resource I would recomment to start with is this set of questions by Rory Vaden.
Finally bring all that raw data and put it together using the technique mentioned by Frank Kern in his historic 'Core Influence' Speech (It's well worth the 2 hours to watch completely).
I've used each of them and have found them all helpful, and think doing Rory's questions first, followed by the 5 Why's and then putting it all together with Frank Kern's Perfect Day exercise, brings it all together nicely.
Hope these help you out.
Do let me know with a comment below, how this has helped you.
Thanks again, and have a great day. 🙂